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SlutWalk Denver aims to to provide a safe space for survivors and allies to come together to voice their collective anger, share stories, build a community, and become empowered to continue to change the conversation around sexual assault (locally and globally) from blaming and shaming victims to holding assaulters accountable.
SlutWalk Denver welcomes everyone of all genders, races, classes and backgrounds. If we are failing to be inclusive, please let us know how to be more inclusive.
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BREAKING NEWS!
SlutWalk Denver will be releasing a promo video within the next couple days! GET EXCITED!!!! It’s AMAZING!
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BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!
SlutWalk Denver 2013 has been changed to July 6th at 12pm, Civic Center Park!
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"Slut-shaming collapses the complexity of another person onto a single dimension. But even more so, given how slut-shaming is used to control and shame all women regardless of their sexual practices or desires, it conflicts directly with respecting them. If you say that you respect women, then you need to respect all women, no matter how many sexual partners she has, her relationship choices, or how she enjoys sex. Otherwise, you’re saying that that your respect is something that someone has to buy. I don’t think that that’s really respect at all."
If You Don’t Respect Sluts, You Don’t Respect Women
(via loveyourrebellion)
(via goodconsentrules)
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"I think we can all recognize that the “it’s a joke excuse” is the most dismissive, self-righteous loophole, created by those who refuse to examine their power, and assume they have not only the right to say whatever they want to people, but the right to control how other people react to what they have said."
Loose Talk (via lavenderlabia)
(Source: xuananigans, via slutwalkseattle)
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What I hear when people cite false rape accusations as evidence that women lie about rape
You know what, I think the misfortune of a few individuals is enough to invalidate an entire culture of entitlement and disregard towards women’s bodies. I think consent is too tricky to obtain every time I have intercourse. I think rape is just a term women use to describe their buyers remorse when they realize they’ve been slutty and they don’t want their catty friends to judge them for being sluts. I think rape is a concept that oppresses men, because it presumes that women can say no, when everyone knows that, for real women, no means yes. I would rather shame all rape victims into silence on account of a few people who lied because I am scared that someone might accuse me of rape, which would ruin my life, but I’ve never really given much thought to how being raped might ruin someone’s life. I think rape accusations are a way of women exercising tricky women power over men, even though the justice system regularly under convicts rape, in the small proportion of cases that are reported. I think it is ok to rape if you dont get caught. I think a mans right to stay out of prison is more important than a woman’s right not to be raped. I do not care about rape victims as much as I care about rapists. I am a rape apologist.
(Source: , via slutwalkseattle)
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"Sexual assault is a traumatic, devastating experience for victims or survivors regardless of whether they are male or female. It takes enormous courage to face what has happened and embark on a journey of healing. For male survivors there are many social pressures and patterns of male conditioning that make it difficult to acknowledge being abused, to speak out about it, and to seek appropriate help in overcoming the trauma. When a male survivor discloses to us that they have been sexually abused, it’s essential that we believe them, take them seriously, and refrain from judging or blaming them. It’s unlikely they’re making it up, since there are usually no social gains to be made from fabricating a story of abuse. Above all, survivors of sexual abuse need to feel heard and accepted."
Sexual abuse of men and boys | www.xyonline.net (via sacet)
(via slutwalkseattle)
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Boy who raped girl of 5 spared jail as judge says 'it's society's fault' →
TW - rape, rape culture, rape apologism
A teenage boy who raped a girl of five was handed a community order by a judge who blamed ‘the world and society’ for his exposure to pornography.
wait but the MRAs told me that prosecuting men for rape is like a slam dunk for the prosecution. some woman makes an accusation and a man is carted off to jail. but, oh wait, a dude raped a 5 year old girl and not a minute of jail time. quality.
also, they need to stop calling him a “boy”. he’s 15 fucking years old and he raped a child.
(via slutwalkseattle)
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"Why do some folks feel that transgender people need to disclose their history and their genitalia and non transgender people do not? When you first meet someone and they are clothed, you never know exactly what that person looks like. And when you first meet someone, you never know that person’s full history. Why do only some people have to describe themselves in detail—and others do not? Why are some nondisclosures seen as actions and others utterly invisible? Actions. Gwen Araujo was being herself, openly and honestly. No, she did not wear a sign on her forehead that said “I am transgender, this is what my genitalia look like.” But her killers didn’t wear a sign on their foreheads saying, “We might look like nice high school boys, but really, we are transphobic and are planning to kill you.” That would have been a helpful disclosure."
Law Center (via mermaid-vision)
(via slutwalkseattle)
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Solidarity in Feminism Or How White Feminists Fail Intersectionality….Again
TW - sexual assault, rape, forced sterilization, systemic abuse, racism
So I’m sure I’m being divisive now or something, but with all this talk of solidarity from white feminists where exactly are the marches & letter campaigns backing up women who are indigenous & facing higher rates of sexual assault? Where are the big well funded campaigns against abuses of documented & undocumented migrant workers? I hear a lot about misogyny in hip hop, but nothing about racialized misogyny in rock, metal, or country. Well except for the stuff I’m writing & other WOC are writing, but we’re not white. Where’s the outpouring of support for WOC who were forcibly sterilized and are now seeking compensation in North Carolina or the 31 other states with eugenics programs?
Where are the calls for better access to resources for poor WOC & their children? Or the calls to respect the bodily autonomy & boundaries of WOC? I can find 747375375 articles about choice feminism, but I spent this week arguing with people who wanted to tell me to appreciate the “beauty” of a picture of an enslaved black woman breastfeeding her future owner. White women are declaring they want Afros, but they aren’t fighting for the right of black women to wear their hair the way it grows out of their heads in the workplace. Or listening when we say that touching our hair is unacceptable behavior. No one’s talking about supporting young mothers of color so that they can feed & raise their children as they see fit. Instead the choice conversation is increasingly about abortion as though that is the only choice that needs support.
Where is the media push supporting the right of trans women of color to exist & defend themselves? When we talk about body acceptance movements, where’s the acceptance for different skin colors? Different hair types? With all the discussion of topless activism is there a point where we talk about the depiction of the bodies of WOC in the media & how we’re sluts from birth no matter what we’re wearing? Do we get a discussion going in these feminist think tanks about the value of the work done by WOC & how their labor (physical & intellectual) is co-opted & commodified for the benefit of others? When we talk about sex positive feminism do we talk about the fetishization of bodies of color by white feminists & how problematic that is? Where’s the conversation about racism in feminism?
Oh right, these conversations are happening all the time. Just not between white feminists unless it can feather someone’s pockets. In fact these discussions are apparently valueless as long as WOC are having them with each other. But then, according to some people all women are white & the rest of us aren’t even real women. We’re supposed to show up for Slut Walks, support Felicia Day, & yet no one’s out here stomping for Rekia Boyd, Aisha Tyler, hell we can’t even get a good conversation going about sexual assault statistics for WOC under 18. So, tell me again how WOC should think of you as sisters in the struggle?
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[tw: rape, rape jokes]
do we need a refresher on why jokes about rape and sexual assault are never funny, fandom? let’s make it simple:
- rape jokes are made from the pov of the rapist
- they are made to make people laugh at someone being sexually violated
- rape jokes are not made in a vacuum
- they are made in a culture where sexual violence, especially against women, is allowed, tolerated, forgiven and glamorised
- 1 in 3 women will experience an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime
- victims hear rape jokes and are asked to laugh at them
- rapists hear rape jokes and get to experience people laughing at their actions like they don’t matter
- rape jokes make rapists feel better, not rape victims
(via slutwalkseattle)
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I don't own my child's body →
(CNN) — My daughter occasionally goes on a hugging and kissing strike.
She’s 4. Her parents could get a hug or a kiss, but many people who know her cannot, at least right now. And I won’t make her.
“I would like you to hug Grandma, but I won’t make you do it,” I told her recently.
“I don’t have to?” she asked, cuddling up to me at bedtime, confirming the facts to be sure.
No, she doesn’t have to. And just to be clear, there is no passive-aggressive, conditional, manipulative nonsense behind my statement. I mean what I say. She doesn’t have to hug or kiss anyone just because I say so, not even me. I will not override my own child’s currently strong instincts to back off from touching someone who she chooses not to touch.
I figure her body is actually hers, not mine.
It doesn’t belong to her parents, preschool teacher, dance teacher or soccer coach. While she must treat people with respect, she doesn’t have to offer physical affection to please them. And the earlier she learns ownership of herself and responsibility for her body, the better for her.
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Would you want your daughter to have sex with her boyfriend simply to make him happy? Parents who justify ordering their children to kiss grandma might say, “It’s different.”
No, it’s not, according to author Jennifer Lehr, who blogs about her parenting style. Ordering children to kiss or hug an adult they don’t want to touch teaches them to use their body to please you or someone else in authority or, really, anyone.
“The message a child gets is that not only is another person’s emotional state their responsibility but that they must also sacrifice their own bodies to buoy another’s ego or satisfy their desire for love or affection,” said Lehr.
“Certainly no parent would wish for their teenager or adult child to feel pressure to reciprocate unwanted sexual advances, yet many teach their children at a young age that it’s their job to use their bodies to make others happy,” she said.
[More at the source.]
(via slutwalkseattle)
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